When my kiddo finally decided (at age 20) that it was time for (most of) his enormous Lego collection to go, it was a gut-wrenching moment for me (goodbye childhood!). However, we used this service, which was simple and hassle-free.
Extremely dangerous how “grooming” in the context of child sexual abuse went from being a very specific pattern of isolation and trust-building with the aim of abusing someone to “telling children anything that contradicts their parents’ ultra-conservative worldview is grooming” to “selling rainbow flags in a store is grooming” to “literally anyone I don’t like is a groomer”.
These days the word seems to most often be used by people who don’t care about what it actually means and just want an easy “this person is irredeemably evil, kill them now” button.
tumblr puritans have never spoken to a kinky person and you can tell this because they talk about ~scary~ kinks like a child who thinks their teacher sleeps at school. they have a 1700s “actors cannot be trusted for they engage in obscene behavior” mindset. yes lil buddy people can in fact roleplay situations and then exit that roleplay and have different thoughts and actions 🤗 adding sex to performance does not actually cast a magic spell that turns you into a monster incapable of morality <3
Kink is just LARP that makes you cum.
…Hear me out.
If I say “Nooooo don’t kill me!!!” while LARPing, my friend is still gonna whack me on the head with their foam battle axe bc that’s what I want them to do. If I actually didn’t want to get hit on the head, I’d say “WHOA WHOA WHOA TIME OUT TIME OUT” so they’d know I’m serious.
In the same way, if I say “Nooooo don’t spank me!!!” and my partner still spanks me, THAT’S FINE. I want to get spanked, and I’m just playing along. It would only be a real problem if I were to say the agreed-upon safe word, the word that actually means no, and still get spanked.
See? LARP that makes you cum.
& to add on to that:
Your friend enjoying pretending to kill you in a safe and consensual enviroment where they know you are also having a good time does not mean they actually want to axe murder people.
And in the same way, your partner enjoying safely spanking you in a safe and consensual enviroment where they know you are also having a good time does not mean they actually want to beat you up
robots posting memes like “metal rusts and algorithms are flawed, i’m gonna become a pristine meat creature that can grow and heal” and when reminded that disease & death exist they’re like “no i would be the epic flawless organic lifeform that i just imagined”
Boundaries shouldn’t be primarily about other people, they should be primarily about you.
Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people’s actions. If anything, they are basically an if statement. (sorry to bring out the computer nerd here)
If you do X to me, then I will respond with Y. You can’t choose what kind of input the user will throw at you. However, you can choose what kind of treatment you will tolerate.
If your boundary can’t fit into the above template, it isn’t a boundary. It is an unreasonable expectation for other people.
What we’ve gotta understand is that “the modern Internet is abolishing spaces for adults” and “the modern Internet is abolishing space for children” are compatible phenomena. Neither group is being favoured: the modern Internet is abolishing spaces for adults (i.e., because grown-up topics aren’t advertiser friendly) and the modern Internet is abolishing spaces for children (i.e., because online communities which consist principally of people who have no money are hard to sell things to). The Internet that contemporary corporate interests are trying to build isn’t a space for anyone – it’s the digital equivalent of an Ikea showroom.
Like, when I say that the greater part of contemporary social media is fundamentally hostile to human life, I’m not indulging in hyperbole or constructing an ironic metaphor. I mean that 100% literally.
I can’t believe how goofy people are being about the AO3 DDoS situation. One side of the debate is like “ah, it’s probably those Nefarious Russian Hackers carrying out another false flag operation!” and the other side is like “a real hacktivist group wouldn’t use this sort of fandom-centric language, so clearly the attack never happened and AO3 themselves staged it in order to make themselves look like victims!”, and these are both unhinged things to believe.
Like, it’s fucking 4channers. It’s always fucking 4channers. Pretending to be from a random African nation is literally a meme for those guys, and who else would be dumb enough to try and hold a registered charity hostage for bitcoin?
Sumerian Veteran: *has severe PTSD but doesn’t know it because the term won’t be invented for another 5000 years* I fight the same battle in my dreams every night and my relationship with my family has fallen apart.
Sumerian Healer:*saw hundreds of veterans with the exact same affliction before* You’re cursed by desert demons.
actually we have recorded texts of sumerian warriors describing symptoms that closely match ptsd, and the diagnoses was not desert demons, but rather “Those dudes you killed are still attacking you with their ghosts because you killed them”
